The woman sits in her finery looking troubled, hopelessly staring straight ahead while her companion appears to be detached and uncaring.  What is that the source of her distress?  Money troubles?  Relationship woes?  Perhaps she needs to reframe the problem- asking herself what she is responsible for, and could therefore change, to improve the situation?   Perhaps, by taking personal responsibility for it, or part of it,  a course of action might be found.

What does it mean “to find oneself”?

What can be gained by doing that?

Is there a current situation in which you feel you “are not yourself”?